Dating back then
Dating back then
We didn’t have stories to post while sitting in the doctors office. or if you were at home, you might be on the phone with someone on a landline…but there were many portions of the day where there was space to just “be”… With a near constant stream of things to react to, we have created and have been participating in a world that’s become increasingly frantic and stressful. And for your partner, allow them to have as much an opportunity for that as possible as well.
And if you haven’t discovered this yet, it will be at these moments that you discover one of the necessities of modern relationships is to remain undisturbed when it does happen.Over the course of the last decade and a half, texting has increasingly become a constant part of waking life.For most people these days, it’s tough to imagine waiting for something or sitting idle without checking your texts, social media, etc.And believe it or not, I had a guy send me virtually this same question in hopes that I would discuss it at a speaking engagement.To answer your question, I want to quickly tell you what I cover in this article: I also put a link to another quiz at the end of this article about how to understand your guy’s texting style, so I recommend you take that one too.So if that’s happening, you’re probably looking at a guy who isn’t all that into you… well, you could be saving yourself a ton of time and heartache. so if you think that you have a good relationship with the guy you’re with but you believe he’s starting to lose interest, then I highly recommend you take the following quiz. Good relationships tend to come about when you’re swimming with the current, not against it. if a guy has stopped texting you all of a sudden, and it’s a guy you’ve been seeing for longer than, let’s say, 2 weeks…
at which point I would recommend you would cut things now and meet someone new. Which is foolish on two fronts: first it implies that the time to be impressive is only at the beginning and second it implies that another person should select you because you impressed them (and that you should select them because you found them impressive). I’m not saying that there aren’t those rare cases where some disinterested guy inexplicably changes his tune and comes around… Sooner or later, this kind of thing is going to happen and now is as good a time as any to become comfortable with the idea of giving a guy space.With the social aspect of social media, we might even find it very heard not to feed into the constant drama of it.Contrasted against that, we have a whole inner world that, for most people, remains largely unexplored.There’s this expectation nowadays that we’re almost meant to be constantly available and in contact with others…that we should be on our phones at every waking moment, ready to respond to any message sent to us. There used to be moments of space mixed into our days, where we would just have to wait for things.it can happen in the same way a person could win the lottery or a tree could be struck by lightning… The odds are much higher you’ll waste a ton of time, youth and heart on chasing a guy who isn’t interested, when you could be spending it with a guy who wants exactly what you want… The best way to think of text messages is this: If you he tells you, specifically, he’s going to text you at a specific time for a specific reason, then it makes sense to expect him to do what he told you he’s going to do. Outside of that, texting (in the view of most men) is an interruption to whatever we’re doing at that moment.